20 Things I’ve Learned In My 20s

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAToday is my 29th birthday, the last year of my 20s is upon my and to mark the occasion I thought I’d share a few things I’ve learned in that (almost) decade..

1. Life is too short. If you’re in a situation you don’t want to be in, get out! It’s never as difficult as you think it will be to start over and years down the line you’ll be so glad you did.

2. Your hair would look better if you let a professional look at it every once in a while.. something I know to be true but I often ignore

3. Know your limits! That applies to almost everything but in this case I’m talking about alcohol, no wild night of partying is worth feeling like death the following day and you don’t need it to have fun!

4. You look the way you look, you can only strive to be the best version of yourself, you can’t REALISTICALLY strive to look like Miranda Kerr in a bikini.. unless of course you ARE Miranda Kerr

5. Comfort over fashion – I love dressing up but if I’m really going to have a good night I’ll be wearing my jeans and converse not my uber heels and a dress I can’t breathe in.

6. Don’t be afraid of failure? Better to try and fail than never try at all.

7. There’s set no timeline for life, I did some things ‘early’, some ‘late’ and others not at all. Everyone is different and nobody needs to worry that they haven’t accomplished a certain life goal by a particular age.

8. The mean kids from school grow up and go to work.. you will encounter them wherever you go so you’d better figure out how to deal with them!

9. You have more control over your mood than anyone else, you can choose to snap out of that funk or wallow in it.

10. You can’t please everyone and that’s okay, not everyone has to like you or agree with you.

11. Do more of what makes you happy. If you can’t make it your day job then make it your hobby and if you enjoy it don’t let anyone tell you it’s not worth doing

12. Even the happiest people can be sad sometimes, it’s okay

13. Friendships take as much work as romantic relationships, neglect them and they wont last

14. You really don’t need all that much makeup. Put the eyeliner down.

15. It’s nice to be nice, even if you don’t really feel like it. You could turn someones bad day around with a random act of kindness

16. Stress is the most pointless emotion. Whether it be about money or traffic worrying about a situation wont change it, it will only make you more anxious. Stress is toxic!

17. If you don’t know what you want to do with your life yet, that’s okay. Nobody really knows what they’re doing. People train for jobs they end up hating, others fall in to jobs they love by chance.. it’s tough to plan your life so if you don’t have a plan maybe you don’t need one.

18. Learn to accept a compliment.

19. I don’t think I’ll ever really feel like a grown up, which is bizarre because in another 10 years I’ll be the parent of a legal adult.

20. Resting bitch face might keep the wrinkles at bay but smiling makes you happy

Miss BB



    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:08 pm

      lol.. true story! some people look down right miserable!

  1. 4 February, 2015 / 9:01 am

    Great post, I’m still in my early 20s but I’ve definitely learnt a lot of these xx

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:07 pm

      some you just know but others you really have to learn the hard way

  2. 4 February, 2015 / 9:16 am

    Hahaha, The resting bitch face. I would rather be happy and smile. I think when you smile it brings your beauty out. I have told my husband that on my 30th this year I will be under the covers applying the wrinkle cream 😀 xxx

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:06 pm

      haha.. I will be off to the spa for full rejuvenation 😉

  3. 4 February, 2015 / 9:19 am

    This is a lovely post!
    I wish I could put most of these things into practice, but it is hard!
    And of course: happy birthday!

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:06 pm

      indeed! one thing to know the lesson and another to really learn

  4. 4 February, 2015 / 9:22 am

    Have a beautiful day ~ Happy Birthday!

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:05 pm

      thank you x

  5. 4 February, 2015 / 9:35 am

    Happy Birthday Khila! I will be trying my hardest to do as many of these things – great advice!

    Quick question – are the candles pushed into a doughnut, or am I just craving them?! 😛 x

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:05 pm

      lol no, it’s a victoria sponge.. close though!

  6. Victoria
    4 February, 2015 / 9:40 am

    Happy Birthday! I was 29 in December and can identify with everything you say.
    With #19 when I was about 12, my Aunty told me when she was 18 an old lady at a bus stop asked her how old she was and said although 80+ she still felt 18 in her head. It’s stuck with me and the older I get I think in my head I’ll always be about 22.

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:05 pm

      completely! I think I’m more judgmental with age and less tolerant of silliness but I’m still capable of it at times so I think you are an eternal age but try to be ‘grown up’ haha

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:04 pm

      I wouldn’t go back a decade for any money, haha

  7. Anna
    4 February, 2015 / 10:40 am

    Happy birthday.
    Sending you wishes from sweden.

    I hope you have a wonderful day.

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:04 pm

      thank you x

  8. 4 February, 2015 / 10:43 am

    Happy Birthday! Great post and a lot of things you wrote are relatable.

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:03 pm

      most of us learn the same lessons but sometimes we need a reminder!

  9. 4 February, 2015 / 12:07 pm

    Lovely post, numbers seven and seventeen really struck a chord with me. Hope you have a great birthday! x

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:03 pm

      I thought some would be on other peoples lists, haha! x

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:02 pm

      ditto! it’s one thing to know and another to KNOW!

  10. 4 February, 2015 / 12:43 pm

    You don’t look a day over 21! Happy Birthday love xx

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:01 pm

      haha so long as I’m still getting ID’d for ibuprofen I’m happy 😉

  11. 4 February, 2015 / 1:10 pm

    Happy birthday! I haven’t quite managed to learn all of these yet – although I got number 14 pretty early on 🙂 It’s my 28th birthday in four days so still some time left to get to them all… 🙂

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 5:00 pm

      haha there are plenty I know but don’t really follow.. it’s tough being a grown up 😉

  12. 4 February, 2015 / 1:22 pm

    Such wise statements! i love this! i think i may even print this out and put it on my desk at work.


    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 4:59 pm

      I didn’t realise I was print worthy 😉

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 4:59 pm

      thank you x

  13. Janie
    4 February, 2015 / 3:57 pm

    Great list and Happy birthday, hope you have a lovely day :). I’m 37 and I’m still learning lessons from life you are probably wiser at 29 than I was. Regarding 19 on your list I still don’t feel like an adult now! I love your resting bitch face comment I had a colleague who never smiles for photos and she still got wrinkles so you may as well smile.

    • missbudgetbeauty
      4 February, 2015 / 4:57 pm

      well that’s probably why she looks so miserable then 😉

  14. 4 February, 2015 / 5:10 pm

    Number 17 resonates with me so much! I may be 25 (I have lovely partner a step son and a nice house) but ask me what I want to do with my life and who knows??!! I certainly don’t!


    • missbudgetbeauty
      9 February, 2015 / 3:23 pm

      and nobody plans to have step children do they? perfect example of how you can’t plan for life, it plans for you!

  15. MissDollyDimples
    4 February, 2015 / 5:59 pm

    Khila, I loved this! I can tell that this came truly from the heart (instead of from a Google search) lol! I even had your voice narrating it to me (YouTube subby). I’m 33, nearly 34.. How depressing! Emma x

    • MissDollyDimples
      4 February, 2015 / 6:05 pm

      Oh what a “blonde” ..completely forgot to wish you Happy Birthday! Xx

      • missbudgetbeauty
        9 February, 2015 / 3:22 pm

        haha no worries, it wasn’t a mega exciting day lol

    • missbudgetbeauty
      9 February, 2015 / 3:24 pm

      lol! I totes just copy and pasted this 😉 x

    • missbudgetbeauty
      9 February, 2015 / 3:22 pm

      I’m so pleased so many of you enjoyed it x

  16. 5 February, 2015 / 10:06 am

    Aww great post! I’m entering my mid twenties now and I can relate to so many of these.

    • missbudgetbeauty
      9 February, 2015 / 3:21 pm

      they’re lessons we all learn but sometimes forget 😉

  17. Nikki S
    5 February, 2015 / 11:52 am

    I hope you had a fantastic birthday, Khila!

    Lots of these things struck a chord with me. I’m 28 approaching 29 and agree with them all. Very wise words indeed. The resting bitch face one in particular, cracked me up! You’re better off being smiley and just using a good anti-wrinkle cream lol. Life’s too short for grumpiness. x

    • missbudgetbeauty
      9 February, 2015 / 3:20 pm

      lol.. that one was a bit of a reverse on the MANY jokes you see about it being for the better. I know it’s their natural expression but c’mon! lol

  18. 5 February, 2015 / 7:01 pm

    thank you for sharing nr 7 and 17! This makes me feel comfortable as a 24 year old who hasn’t figured it out yet 🙂

    • missbudgetbeauty
      9 February, 2015 / 3:19 pm

      At 29 I still don’t know what I’m going to do with he rest of my life but then wouldn’t it be boring if I did?

  19. 6 February, 2015 / 3:41 pm

    Too true. I’ve realised that the things that used to wind me up don’t any more. Let it go, let it go 🙂

    • missbudgetbeauty
      9 February, 2015 / 3:19 pm


  20. Cath
    7 February, 2015 / 3:52 am

    I’m 44 and still trying to learn these rules, esp 4 & 10! It doesn’t get any easier in your 40’s, but it’s great that some of the people who used to look down on you, are now the ones being looked down upon. Life is for living no matter what age you are, just bloody enjoy it. Happy belated Birthday Khila xx

  21. Jodie
    9 February, 2015 / 3:05 pm

    You know resting bitch face isn’t a deliberate choice right? They’re not actually miserable. There’s nothing worse than when you’re minding your own business, not in a bad mood at all and someone tells you to smile.

    • missbudgetbeauty
      9 February, 2015 / 3:07 pm

      lol, people make jokes ALL THE TIME about how ‘resting bitch face’ is great because X, I was referring to those jokes

  22. 1 March, 2015 / 3:17 pm

    Love this list (sorry only just seen it) and it’s taken me until my 40’s to actually realise some of them!

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