We’ve all seen those posts on instagram that make us feel like we’re not quite living our best lives. That we’re not the parents we should be, the friends, the partners, the siblings the children. They suck, quite literally! They suck the joy out of social media and life in general.
That might sound extreme but this is the world we live in now, very few of us manage to live a social media-free life and chances are, if you’re reading this, you’re not one of them. We all talk about this from the outsider perspective but I want to look at it from the view of the poster. Whether you’re officially and ‘influencer’ or not we all have influence on the people who have chosen to include us in their feed. We all need to take some amount of responsibility for what we’re sharing with those people. Of course you only want to share the cute baby pictures, and the loved up snaps with your partner.. I’m not suggesting you adopt the ‘my baby daddy will be sorry’ approach we’ve all seen on facebook. I am very much not suggesting this. Nobody wants that!! You don’t have to share the bad stuff, just don’t force the sunshine and rainbow in your friends faces 24/7 is all I’m saying.
Bloggers have a slightly heightened responsibility because the people who’ve let us in to their feeds are mostly strangers. My friends know my bad days, they know to take a smiling snap of me and the kids with a pinch of salt because they know they were driving me up the wall just 24 hours ago. You don’t necessarily know that. You might be in that frustrated haze right now and seeing my smiling face might be just enough to push you over the edge. It doesn’t have to be parenting related but this is definitely where I personally lose my cool because it is not easy all the time. It’s not possible but some people want you to think that it is and that’s just not helpful!!
Similarly there are those who share a steady stream of perfect shots in exotic locales as if they live on perma-vacation. They don’t, nobody does. I get that you’re going for a vibe but would it kill you to throw in an un-edited picture of yourself at home from time to time? Just for a balance? It’s possible to look amazing and still be a regular person, living a regular life. It’s possible to make that look really quite fabulous. Hannah Gale does it all the time! And she’s just had a baby!!
There’s room for the aspirational, for sure but in 2018 we want relatable. We want to feel like we could sit and have a coffee with this chick and that we might have something more to talk about than filters and insta themes. I want people that find me online to not only see a polished exterior (good job, really cause I’ve never achieved that) but a little of the real me through the cracks as well. I want my daughter to want to share pictures of her actual face that don’t have bunny ears and giant eyes. I hate this trend for perfection over personality, we’re becoming more and more vapid and if we don’t fight back it will take us. We will all continue to filter our lives to the point of pointlessness.
Every time you post you have the opportunity to influence those who ‘follow’ you. The question is, do you want that influence to better or to break?