In the social media world of blogging things have been a little rocky this week. I try to stay away from the corner of the internet reserved for trolls gossiping about bloggers but it was all over twitter and tough to ignore recently. I saw a lot of posts claiming to unmask people who should know better that were apparently badmouthing fellow bloggers on a certain site and dozens more people begging to see lists of those who had been caught in the act. For me all it was was attention for those who crave it most. As with any bully the best thing you can do is completely ignore them, now I know first hand how hard that is to do and when they come after you in such viscous ways I’m not saying it’s easy but launching a twitter campaign will get you nowhere but in the sights of those trolls. They know they’re getting to you, they know what their doing is working.. why are you giving them what they want?
Ultimately we shouldn’t care what a bunch of strangers say about us but we do, it’s human nature.. what’s harder to hear is that potentially people you thought were ‘friends’, those you confided in may have been ‘one of them’. You do need to be careful what you say to people online because much as you think you know them, you don’t. I have very few really good friends but I trust them with every tiny detail of my life and it’s tough to differentiate between those people I really know and those I FEEL like I do. It’s not unlike catfishing, you may not be a young, naive girl looking for love but you may be looking for friendship from like-minded folk who appear to be nice enough and in fact just want to post the ins and outs of your life online for others to mock. As far as I’m aware I’ve not fallen foul to anyone so horrid but what I’ve gathered from this weeks twitter drama is to be more cautious as to what I share with people I meet online.
I don’t ever visit gossip forums anymore and took a brief hiatus from twitter when it all kicked off a few days ago because honestly I just don’t need that, I’ve been there, let it upset me and felt stupid for it. They don’t think of you like a person, we’re all guilty of gossiping about Katie Price and her latest husband/baby without thinking she’d be hurt if she overheard so you have to put it in to that perspective. To them you’re just an internet person, they don’t know you so nothing they say can really be hurtful, can it? So long as they’re not directly threatening your life you have to just accept that they’re out there somewhere and they don’t like you. I’d rather not think they were someone I’d been chatting to online for 2 year but hey, if they are I obviously wasn’t a great judge of character!
Whether you’re new to blogging, old hat or just a reader caught in the cross fire, know that this comes with the territory, it means nothing in the real world and most importantly only you can put a value on the words of others, I suggest you don’t! Just ignore them and get on with your super interesting life that other people want to talk about 😉