The Non-Social Media


From the outside blogging might look like that most social hobby (and by extension job for some) but in reality the act of blogging is a solitary one. You sit home photographing, testing, writing.. rarely with company, it’s really only the parties and events that add that element and if you don’t participate then it can be very lonely. I was at an event last night and it occurred to me that I was surrounded by people who I may have tweeted or chatted to online but whom I would feel so uncomfortable approaching in real life. I don’t think I’m alone in that either. Once I’m talking to someone I’m fine but I’m really quite shy approaching them initially and you could be forgiven for thinking I was the bitch face in the corner ignoring everyone when I’m actually just hiding out. I realised that for some blogging may be a social media but for a lot of us we probably got in to blogging in the first place because we were more comfortable in a one sided conversation. Twitter allows those of us who may be slightly less confident to talk to just about anyone we like but the ‘friendships’ you form can feel a little hollow.. would you say hi if you saw them in the street? I don’t know. There are definitely those who I feel I would be comfortable approaching but on the whole it feels very awkward.

It’s times like these that I realise I was right to keep a part time job, I chat on twitter and such but I don’t actually often meet people through my blog/YouTube and shy as I may be we all crave social interaction and I think if I was home 5 days a week with no adult company I might go mad.

Do any of you feel this way about social media?

Miss BB



  1. 12 March, 2014 / 11:42 am

    I know what you mean and I agree with you. I’ve always been quite a shy person and I really do enjoy blogging but there are only a few people I “talk” to regularly through blogging. I do think though that starting up a blog, being a shy person, is a good way of beginning to interact with more people and sometimes making some good friends.
    Great post. 🙂 xxx

  2. 12 March, 2014 / 12:06 pm

    I love Twitter but I do understand what you mean, you ‘know’ people but you don’t really know them! I realised a while ago that a lot of the people that I follow on Twitter, know my real life friends, but I didn’t know they knew each other. So the people I connect and stay connected with on social media, tend to be the people that I would be friends with if I met them on the street. That was reassuring and it’s made me happier to work on getting over how shy I feel, I’ve met a couple of people from my ‘social media’ life for actual real life things and it’s always been lovely. I’m trying to toughen up a bit because most people are just as shy about talking to strangers as I am and if I make the effort and they’re rude or horrible, then I’ve lost nothing as they weren’t part of my life anyway, but if they’re nice, I’ve made a new friend. Wow that’s a bit of a ramble, hope it makes sense!

  3. Lucy
    12 March, 2014 / 1:31 pm

    I don’t blog but follow a few and leave comments etc. I am not working at the mo due to health problems but I love the interaction on social media as it makes me feel included so I don’t feel as lonely as a result. Beauty is a passion of mine so it’s great for me to talk to likeminded people and not bore my friends and family! Xx

  4. 12 March, 2014 / 2:07 pm

    I totally agree!!! Plus blogging with a full time job is a mission because not just about posting and writing good content. One has to look into social mediums and ensure that there is enough traffic coming.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    Cheeni @

  5. 12 March, 2014 / 10:58 pm

    This post resonates with me so much. Online I’m uber friendly and sociable, but in the real world I have anxiety to deal with and worry people will think I’m aloof/weird. That saying about feeling alone in a room full of people is how I feel most of the time when I’m out and about, which is why blogging is my thing, but as I get more readers I’m getting invited to more things which is nice and shit scary at the same time. Aarrrrgh, all the feels!

    Thanks so much for writing this and making me feel like less of a weirdo. 🙂 x x

  6. 13 March, 2014 / 12:33 pm

    First off I just want to say that I love all your blog posts and youtube videos, I love the way that you are so honest, confident and don’t care about what you say and people think .. you are a true inspiration!

    If I could stay at home blogging all the time and earning enough money to live I would, it’s my dream job, with my depression I don’t take well to big amounts of people, so staying at home with my baby and typing on my blog would be a dream come true but unfortunetly it way pay all the bills!!


  7. 18 March, 2014 / 1:40 am

    Well this post have just proof I am not the only one who feels this way! I am a very shy person so when I get invited to parties and / or I have recently been invited to join this “IN-PERSON” bloggers network and I simply just ignore it ~ As much as I would love to join and meet new people, real-life people; I just don’t think I can do it! So all I can do is ignore instead of rejecting their offer to make me look a b*tch. Anyway, can’t we all just enjoy each others blog without having to meet in person?! I feel so awkward every time I have to say no.

  8. 18 March, 2014 / 3:09 pm

    OMG! I totally agree with this. I was telling some of my non blogging friends about this! Blogging can be lonely at times, sometime I wish I ran my blog with a mate as we would be in it together. I love blogging and the independence it gives me though.

    I am always speak to bloggers online and it is weird that I have “online friends” but I have never most of them, lol.

  9. Jade
    23 March, 2014 / 9:37 pm

    Can relate to this so much, sometimes you can feel like the only person out there who feels this way, what a relief lol. A lot of people think I’m bitchy and ignorant because I tend to stand in the back and mind my own business but inside I’m screaming to talk to everybody. I’ve made some of my best friendships online but it is nice to have a job where you can interact with people too. Nothing scarier than approaching people for the first time. This was a lovely read! 🙂

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