I always liked my name. Growing up I liked having an unusual name that nobody could spell and I could correct people pronunciation of. Having a different first name and a common surname, Jones, was a nice balance I thought. Now I come to a bit of a crossroads where I have a fairly large decision to make.. Do I continue my life as a Jones or do I take on a whole new persona as “Mrs McDaid” ?
I want to say something now and understand I am aware of the white trash connotations…
I never took my first husbands name.. it just didn’t fit. It didn’t complement my first name and I didn’t like it.
This time around I guess I have a second shot at a once in a life time opportunity to change my name and I really am considering it. I never thought I would. I always loved being Jones, I never disliked my name as so many of my friends did.. I never dreamed of getting married and becoming Mrs someone else.. I was independent and it just wasn’t important to me. I like the idea of being a family unit with one surname but of course I am now part of a nuclear family… Ella has her Dads surname so I don’t want her to feel like the odd one out if I do take Lee’s name and she is the only non- McDaid.
So it turns out this decision is not just mine to make. Every time I think I’ve made it I think of another pro/con that throws me out again! Lee doesn’t like his name and has offered to take mine… seriously! I don’t think I could let him. Another thing that has influenced my thoughts, although really shouldn’t, is that his ex-wife took his name. I wouldn’t be the first Mrs McDaid.. so do I want to be one at all? But then she took his name.. she was “his” by name.. so will I resent that I am not? It was much simpler the first time around when it was a simple no, not happening, keeping my name, thanks!
I would love to hear from those of you that have made/are currently making this decision or even those who know what they will do in the future when they are posed with this quandry..
I must add… I do like the way the name looks with mine, and how it sounds… I worry about finding kids names that fit with McDaid better than they fit with Jones.. I often wish I’d given Ella my name, I don’t want to regret that again! And lastly… A little picture…