Mental Reboot

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Today I wanted to write my weekly update but If I’m totally honest I’ve not quite felt myself this week. I like to think I’m a positive person and try to ‘choose happy’ rather than dwell on things when the option is mine but I’ve been a little low and have struggled to find the motivation to be happy happy in videos and write peppy posts. Mental Health is a buzz word right now, I was listening to the radio on the way back from school this morning and they said 3 quarters of college students are seeking help for depression or anxiety and I wasn’t sure how I felt about that. I am a cynic and when things crop up en mass I tend to take them with a pinch of salt but perhaps that’s short sighted. I honestly believed that whereas for many it’s a very serious problem, for many more it was just attention seeking. For every YouTuber/Blogger who said they suffered with anxiety there seemed to be 5 more spawn with identical symptoms. It felt less than genuine and so I took less notice than I would have had it only been a handful. The news story sited social media, politics and uncertainty about their future as causes and having lived through the birth of social media, only recently discovering an interest in politics and at 31 actually starting to think about what it is that I want to do with the rest of my life, I get it. They said that, now more than ever we feel that we have a responsibility to change things that aren’t working and that pressure is starting to weigh.

In my own very small circle of reference I see how bloggers could feel the strain, working for yourself with an inconsistent income is stressful and for a lot of us it’s a solitary job so if you can reach out via twitter and find people to connect with then why shouldn’t you? I will never not be suspicious of ‘people’s motives online but I do realise that I have to be more open to the idea that some people are asking (inadvertently or not) for help that they really need. There are degrees of severity but we can’t all be happy all of the time and it’s important to know the difference between feeling ‘a bit hormonal’ vs something else entirely. I suffered with post natal depression after having my daughter 11 years ago and didn’t recognise it in myself for a long time, I didn’t bond with my baby, I felt like she wasn’t really mine and at 31 I think I would have seen it but at 19 I thought, I’m 19, this is normal! I’d like to think I’d see it in myself now but it’s hard to know whether I could be that objective.

We all deal with stress in different ways, I tend to be overly laid back and push it out of my mind until such a time as I’m ready to deal with it or (hopefully – rarely) it’s dealt with its self. This can build up and explode sometimes, I don’t feel like I’m bottling anything up I just don’t see the point in worrying about problems I can’t fix or situations I can’t control. I don’t flip out in traffic or if I’m going to be late, unless I can change the outcome, what good will it do? I thought that was a great way to live and as a result I was happier, less fraught and would definitely get less wrinkles, but maybe not? From time to time I feel down and my way of dealing with that is SLEEP. Crying helps too but my minds way of handling tension that has become too much seems to be to shut down. Maybe I work too closely with computers? It’s a bit like when I have too many tabs open on my browser and it crashes, there’s only so much it can cope with before it needs to reboot. Other people let off steam multiple times a day, they seem a bit stressy and in some cases angry for my liking but I’ll bet they never have a meltdown, they probably sleep really well too because nothing is ever held inside.

I don’t know the right way, I just know how I am and because of that I know I am judgemental when it comes to people sharing their own mental health issues because I like to keep that stuff to myself. That being said there’s a reason I love memoirs and self help books.. I know I need help and had it not been for the trend to talk about mental health I would never have been open to considering my own or learning new mechanisms to cope with situations I previously would have ignored. I feel grateful to be very low on the severity scale but am starting to understand why everyone can benefit from talking about how they’re feeling a little more often.. I would totally be up for a bit of therapy, actually. I know it’s such an americanism but forced contemplation is not the worst idea they ever had. I did see a counsellor after having my daughter but I always felt a bit out of touch with it, they asked me generic questions that I felt weren’t relevant to my state of mind but the general idea of talking to someone impartial, I do like.

If you do think you need help beyond (or rather than) friends and family you find info online here, I went through my GP way back when  but there are more options available now. Obviously my experience was some time ago so if any of you reading feel comfortable sharing a more recent experience that would be really helpful! For right now, I’m going to try to take stock of my emotions more regularly and take an actual day off once a week without any guilt. The solution doesn’t have to be professional help, identifying the problem is the first hurdle, the next step is up to you. I don’t think I’ll be updating on this topic any time soon but I felt inspired to write something today for those of you, like me who really didn’t buy in to the new mental health conscious generation but could maybe benefit from stepping back and looking at their own.

PS. Took a duvet day yesterday and watched the entire of The Santa Clarita Diet (with Drew Barrymore) on Netflix.. it’s awesome, watch it! #noregrets

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  1. Kay dutton
    7 February, 2017 / 12:44 pm

    That was a really good article. I’ve been following you for a couple of years now, even though I’m 51. I still,think a lot of what you write is still very relevant, make up, fashion etc.
    This article is so true, and I deal with stress as you do….sleep. I had an accident 12 years ago which has left me with fibromyalgia ( like ME and chronic pain). I take 15 types of drugs a day (from the doctor), but I still have depression and anxiety which can sometimes make me frantic. My only cure is to go to bed, phone off, and sleep. You have described it so well……like a computer reboot. It doesn’t take the issue I am stressed about away, but seems to make it less severe after a sleep. I am unable to work because of my illness so I am able to just switch off and sleep most times. Keep writing your brill stuff.

  2. 7 February, 2017 / 1:00 pm

    Everyone goes through periods like this, it’s no shame. You just have to be honest with yourself. I really enjoyed (not sure if that’s the right word) reading your post, thank you for sharing.

    PS I’m half way through Santa Clarita Diet, it’s fab!

  3. 7 February, 2017 / 1:40 pm

    Yes i totally understand im a very calm person but right now life is taking its toll and im struggling! As well as general life stress’ i lost my gran suddenly this weekend and im trying to lose 5 and half stone in weight! My stress levels are crushing me! But today i said no more im using my grief to help me make things happen turn the negative into making life positive!

  4. Jodie Wright
    7 February, 2017 / 10:27 pm

    I don’t think it’s necessarily to do with the younger generation and more to do with the government trying to do more to raise awareness of mental health issues so people don’t just struggle in silence feeling like there’s something wrong with them or like they’re the only one that can’t cope. It seems like everyone goes through times like that. I don’t like to see YouTubers making videos about their anxiety”

    • Jodie Wright
      7 February, 2017 / 10:31 pm

      I posted my comment before I was finished and now I can’t edit it. What I meant to say is I don’t like to see YouTubers making videos about their anxiety with a picture of them looking perfect but posing and pretending to look sad with the word “anxiety” in capital letters in the title. It just feels like they’re exploiting the issue for views. But I can’t deny it’s helpful to know that other people can feel the same sometimes.

  5. Sammi
    8 February, 2017 / 7:46 pm

    It was so refreshing to read such an honest post about this subject, I feel exactly how you do about it. It’s a very, very real thing that a lot of people struggle horrendously everyday with. But equally I think many people jump on the bandwagon and use it as an excuse.
    Like you I try to “choose happy” all the time, but recently having gone through a pretty nasty break up I’m struggling to keep that out look on a day to day basis. It’s hard to talk to people around me, because I almost feel like they depend on me to always be up beat and positive. I’m also terrified of going to my gp about it as I don’t want them to palm me off with medication. But it’s nice to know I’m not wrong for feeling like this, or I’m not letting anyone down by having some down time. Thank you Khila x

  6. Corinne
    9 February, 2017 / 9:24 pm

    I hope you are doing well. I think you are really brave to say “Hey, things are not all alright.” You will be okay but please do what you feel you need to feel better again. You are a great and whole human being!

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